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Have you told your family? – Bisexual / Bicurious Men Forums, Chat …

my sisters, mum uncle, cousins, one online friend, aunt(s) etc…

but i felt like i had to come out due to the shame, guilt, fear, depression, confusion and overall guilt of them not knowing

if you feel relaxed and calm and dont feel a need to come out then that’s fine…

July 19, 2014 | 0 Comments More

bi period? – Bisexual / Bicurious Men Forums, Chat and Advice

View PostTellarite Muse, on 10 July 2014 – 09:22 PM, said:

T Is it possible for a guy to actively think a m2m sex and/or engage in it and still really be completely straight. Some guys do these things and still consider themselves straight. I saw straight one guy on youtube claim that he was able to have sex with men because he was so secure in his sexuality. As far as I am concerned he can identify any way he likes but the fact that he stated how “secure” he is makes me question if he actually is secure.

Just looking up the definition of bisexual in my online dictionary, the third meaning given for the word is “Of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to persons of either sex.”. That’s insufficient as I see it as it doesn’t mean much. To me, bisexual means being sexual interested in both men and women. Their definition probably about the same as mine but I’ll replace sexual “interest” with “orientation”.

Whether a self described straight guy can still be considered straight if he does a guy once in a blue moon….whatever. As you wrote, guys can label themselves whatever they want. Maybe we should just leave it at that?

It does illustrate how hard it would be to define and quantify bisexuals. I’d say the guy in question is bisexual, although I suppose some might simply call him an opportunist. Do we really need empirical definitions for each category of sexual preference? That’s why I came up with my defintions of bisexual and bicurious. Simple, but pretty much covers it all without driving ourselves nuts trying to figure out specifics.

Edited by fredt, 10 July 2014 – 10:04 PM.

July 10, 2014 | 0 Comments More

Bisexuals And Bi-curious Support: Bisexuality: I think my new …

The eternal triangle is alive and well in the world. The most common scenario has two women vying for one man, however, in these cases the women will likely have little to no relationship with each other. The man involved will have his ego fly through the roof at least at first. Oh the complex and devious mind of a woman. If he does not choose and quickly he will find himself alone wondering what went wrong. I simply cannot imagine how that can happen.

The melodrama in recent years has taken new twists and turns with women partaking in loving relationships both on an emotional and physical level. Suddenly, the unsuspecting man becomes the target of affection by “the other woman”.

I believe these situations are recipes for disaster as now you have a decision that quite literally can affect the rest of your life. There is no fun being in a position where you can lose one or more likely two loving and fulfilling relationships at the same time. You are on a slippery slope that must be resolved immediately. The decision is going to be painful one way or the other.

The best way to alter this dangerous course before it consumes you is to nip it in the bud before it reaches a crisis point. Take it from personal experience. You must stem the flow before it becomes a flood.

About 8 years ago I met and fell head over heals with

a Las Vegas showgirl. She was, to put it mildly, perfect in every way and she knew it. She was ten years younger than I but that did not stop us from having a relationship that was totally fulfilling. My husband made it abundantly clear from the start that she was a superstar. I really was not worried about him making a pass at her but I was still on guard. We never had a threesome to the disappointment of my husband. He was OK with it as long as I was happy. I am lucky. I really do have a keeper.

One night during one of her shows she twisted a knee to the point where her dancing career was about to come to an end. Money issues, especially after she recently purchased a home was going to become a real concern. Slowly and I believe deliberately her attentions began to shift from me to my man. All over a sudden she looked and acted differently toward him. One day when she thought I was not home the phone rang. Guess who? The seemingly innocent conversation with my husband ended with arranging a rendezvous at the gym to workout together. Innocent my butt. It was the last day I ever spoke with. I made it clear no matter how difficult and extremely painful it was to end the relationship. No hesitation. No regrets.

If you have a good man, your soul mate, your confidant and friend, you must protect yourself and your unsuspecting na?ve partner, at all costs. As you all are aware, men think with one hand in his pants. I believe women are blessed with a sixth sense, an instinct that is unshakable. Ninety nine percent of the time your first instinct is the correct one. Do not allow any other issues to get in your way. Your final decision, although difficult, must be made before they have a chance to get to first base. If they reach second base it may already be too late. There are more fish in the sea.

Love and Understanding

Beth has been a “guru” for Bicurious women for over eight years.

She and her husband own and operate, Wild Women Vacations, of Las Vegas, which provides events and vacations catering to the Bi and Bicurious community, in safe and secure environments. Beth grew up in New Orleans, where as a teenager, discovered she was equally attracted to men and women and developed an understanding of her sexuality. She has explored the Bi lifestyle and helped many others come to “find themselves” and feel comfortable with being intimate with both genders.

When dealing with human sexuality the number of issues and relationships are almost endless. The mission of her advice column is to answer many questions women have dealing with their bisexuality.

Am i gay, bi curious, bisexual or am i just going through a rough …

I’ll answer with Tym J. Misery’s Famous Sexuality Guide;

Sexual orientation: The term sexual orientation is generally used to describe how a person — if they do — finds themselves sexually, affectionally, and/or romantically attracted to other people in regards to the gender of those people; which gender or genders of person a given person can be in love with and wants to have any kind of sex with. There may be varying degrees of those things or experiences of those things being more separate than unified: for instance, a person may be very sexually attracted to men, but more emotionally attracted to women or someone may find that romantic attraction for them, to anyone, usually plays a bigger part than sexual attraction.

Heterosexual (or straight): Someone who is solely or primarily (mostly) attracted to people of a different sex or gender than them, such as men who are attracted to women.

Queer: Generally, queer is an umbrella term that describes a person who is not heterosexual. Someone may use the term queer as the way they identify, period, or may use terms like those below and also identify as queer.

Homosexual (or gay, lesbian, same-gender loving, MSM or WSW): Someone who is solely or primarily (mostly) attracted to people of the same or similar sex or gender as them, such as men who are attracted to men.

Bisexual: Someone who finds they can feel attraction to people of more than one gender, be that to both men and women, to people of all gender identities, or who doesn’t experience gender as a major factor in their attractions, period.
Pansexual or Omnisexual: Someone who can feel attraction to people of all gender identities, or who doesn’t experience gender as a major factor in their attractions, period.

Asexual (or nonsexual): Someone who has not experienced or does not experience sexual attraction to others or does not have a desire to be sexual with partners. In other words, someone who is not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender.

Apasexual: Someone who feels a lack of significant interest in sex, or feels apathetic about sex in general.

Androsexual, gynesexual, ambisexual or skoliosexual: These terms are a different framework for orientation than the framework of heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality, one that can be more inclusive and expansive than hetero/homo/bi and doesn’t require the gender of the person who is feeling the attraction to be defined in a given way, or at all. Androsexuality refers to someone who is attracted to masculinity, gynesexuality to femininity; am ambisexual is someone who can be attracted to both or either, or experiences gender as a non-issue, and a skolisexual, someone who is attracted to non-cisgender or non-binary people in general. Asexuality is also included in this framework. This framework doesn’t make rigid asssumptions about the other person’s gender, either: a person can be attracted to masculinity in women or femininity in men, for example.

Pomosexual: Someone who rejects or does not identify as or with any categorization of sexual orientation as a form of identity. Pomosexual is basically a term for someone who is of the “labels are for soup cans” camp regarding orientation.

Questioning (or -curious or -flexible, like bicurious or heteroflexible): Someone who isn’t sure right now, or has never been, of what their sexual orientation is; who is in the process of figuring that out. Terms like bicurious or whatever-flexible usually are used by someone who feels an interest or curiosity about a given gender of people sexually, but is still in the process of questioning. A term like that is sometimes also used to describe an interest in people of a given gender that’s there, but not felt as so central to be part of someone’s overall orientation.

June 20, 2014 | 0 Comments More

Reactions to those who have shared they're situation – Bisexual …

View PostBrewfan, on 18 May 2014 – 05:40 PM, said:

I’d still be curious bout what these subtle things were that I was doing that other guys weren’t. If a self-identified “straight” guy says “if I were gay, I’d do him” or is a fan of UFC and nobody (other than me and others who’re awakened to the inherent bisexuality in everyone) questions his “straightness”, what subtle things was I doing to make people think, before I’d said anything, that I was different to these other guys in a way other than I admitted my same-sex thoughts and/or actions and they didn’t?

I hear ya. I’d love to know the same sort of things people thought about me. Here’s a true story from long ago, back in the 70s:

I was around 19 and got “picked up” while I was fishing one day by a cute 17 year old guy. Not overtly picked up. He just came to where I was and stuck with me the whole day. To make a long story short, we kinda…almost had sex (he passed out drunk). The next morning I asked him how he knew I was queer. He replied, “When I saw you, I just knew. I JUST KNEW!”. I didn’t ask for specifics, but I’ll bet if I did he couldn’t give me any.

Along that same line, I got picked up by a homo at a motel when out of town maybe 25 years ago. We went to his room, took off our clothes and started making out. I had to stop and ask him how he knew I was into guys. He replied he had no idea and didn’t know if I’d kick his ass when he propositioned me, or what.

Could it be that all these things those people suspect “or know” about us are just assumptions and they just happened to have guessed right?

May 16, 2014 | 0 Comments More