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The eternal triangle is alive and well in the world. The most common scenario has two women vying for one man, however, in these cases the women will likely have little to no relationship with each other. The man involved will have his ego fly through the roof at least at first. Oh the complex and devious mind of a woman. If he does not choose and quickly he will find himself alone wondering what went wrong. I simply cannot imagine how that can happen.

The melodrama in recent years has taken new twists and turns with women partaking in loving relationships both on an emotional and physical level. Suddenly, the unsuspecting man becomes the target of affection by “the other woman”.

I believe these situations are recipes for disaster as now you have a decision that quite literally can affect the rest of your life. There is no fun being in a position where you can lose one or more likely two loving and fulfilling relationships at the same time. You are on a slippery slope that must be resolved immediately. The decision is going to be painful one way or the other.

The best way to alter this dangerous course before it consumes you is to nip it in the bud before it reaches a crisis point. Take it from personal experience. You must stem the flow before it becomes a flood.

About 8 years ago I met and fell head over heals with

a Las Vegas showgirl. She was, to put it mildly, perfect in every way and she knew it. She was ten years younger than I but that did not stop us from having a relationship that was totally fulfilling. My husband made it abundantly clear from the start that she was a superstar. I really was not worried about him making a pass at her but I was still on guard. We never had a threesome to the disappointment of my husband. He was OK with it as long as I was happy. I am lucky. I really do have a keeper.

One night during one of her shows she twisted a knee to the point where her dancing career was about to come to an end. Money issues, especially after she recently purchased a home was going to become a real concern. Slowly and I believe deliberately her attentions began to shift from me to my man. All over a sudden she looked and acted differently toward him. One day when she thought I was not home the phone rang. Guess who? The seemingly innocent conversation with my husband ended with arranging a rendezvous at the gym to workout together. Innocent my butt. It was the last day I ever spoke with. I made it clear no matter how difficult and extremely painful it was to end the relationship. No hesitation. No regrets.

If you have a good man, your soul mate, your confidant and friend, you must protect yourself and your unsuspecting na?ve partner, at all costs. As you all are aware, men think with one hand in his pants. I believe women are blessed with a sixth sense, an instinct that is unshakable. Ninety nine percent of the time your first instinct is the correct one. Do not allow any other issues to get in your way. Your final decision, although difficult, must be made before they have a chance to get to first base. If they reach second base it may already be too late. There are more fish in the sea.

Love and Understanding

Beth has been a “guru” for Bicurious women for over eight years.

She and her husband own and operate, Wild Women Vacations, of Las Vegas, which provides events and vacations catering to the Bi and Bicurious community, in safe and secure environments. Beth grew up in New Orleans, where as a teenager, discovered she was equally attracted to men and women and developed an understanding of her sexuality. She has explored the Bi lifestyle and helped many others come to “find themselves” and feel comfortable with being intimate with both genders.

When dealing with human sexuality the number of issues and relationships are almost endless. The mission of her advice column is to answer many questions women have dealing with their bisexuality.

LISTSERV 15.5 – MEDLIB-L Archives

Hello, everyone.

I would like to thank everyone who responded to my question.  Here is 
what I received individually.  Most of these words and phrases I was not 
familiar with so I'm glad I asked!



heteroflexible, sexual identity, queer, pansexual, and omnisexual

I frequently see in the lit the phrase, "men who have sex with men" as 
opposed to the term homosexuals. I wonder if you can search similarly w/ 
"women who have sex w/ women"?

This may be something you've tried already, but I was thinking either 
'bicurious' or 'bi*' would be good keywords to try; the term 'bicurious' 
or 'bi-curious' is used often, and 'bi*' would pick up 'bisexual' or 
'bicurious'. Another idea might be 'experimentation' or 'experiment*' as 

Bi-Woman or Bi-Women Bisexual Woman or Bisexual Women Bi-Curious female 
or Bi-curious woman or women Predominately Heterosexual

[tiab] pubmed- if you type this in PubMed after your search terms, it 
will search the titles and abstracts.

bicurious OR "predominantly heterosexual" OR "sexual minority"

There is a good library in Chicago Gay, Lesbian, Transgender Community 
Center. Unfortunately I don't have phone or address. They have provided 
me with great help on issues like this.

Try bi-curious or bicurious. Also "pansexual" (some mostly-straight 
women use this term to describe themselves to show they're attracted to 
transgender and gender-variant/intersex people). "Questioning" may also 
be applicable.

Using the textword "exclusively" (eg: almost exclusively 
heterosexual)with the MESH heading "bisexuality" turned up some articles 
that may be relevant (along with some false drops).

Typing the two word phrase: mostly heterosexual, into Ovid Medline (1946
to present) results in the following 10 "mapped" subject headings:
Select Subject Heading
  Sexual Behavior
  HIV Infections
  Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome
  Young Adult
  Middle Aged
  Unsafe Sex
  mostly heterosexual.mp. search as Keyword
Selecting the mostly heterosexual.mp. search as Keyword option results
in the 34 citations.  Reviewing the titles and abstracts of the 
respective citations,
pertinent citations , i.e. Result 7, I think are found with the
combination of the subject headings Heterosexuality/ and Homosexuality,
Note that Homosexuality, Female/ wasn't a MeSH term Ovid mapped to.
Result 11 could also be of interest to a researcher, but because it
discusses both genders the indexer assigned Homosexuality/
We could add a 3rd heading of Female/ to eliminate any articles that
only discuss "Mostly heterosexual Males" in combination with
Heterosexuality/ and Homosexuality/
Database(s): Ovid MEDLINE(R) 1946 to Present with Daily Update
Search Strategy:
1 mostly heterosexual.mp./ 34
2 Heterosexuality/ 1848
3 Homosexuality, Female/ 2166
4 2 and 3/ 226
5 Homosexuality/ 11250
6 2 and 5/ 300
7 Female/ 5979396
8 2 and 5 and 7/ 250
9 4 or 8/ 463
10 limit 9 to english language/ 440
11 exp United States/ 1028974
12 10 and 11/ 120
Limiting the Results to the United States may be arbitrary for your
We also need to consider searching PsycINFO (Psychological Abstracts) on
this topic and perhaps even Sociology
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June 19, 2012 | 0 Comments More

Is it possible? – Bisexual / Bicurious Men Forums, Chat and Advice

I started out in life primarily focused on women, both sexually and romantically. I used to crush like hell on girls in my teens, and I found myself fantasizing about women. But, when it came to sexual imagery- male full-frontal nudity, etc- I found myself masturbating to both. Both sexes aroused me. But, I never even considered a relationship with a man, mainly because I just liked the women around me so much. (And I was in the theatre at the time and was young and attractive, and I could’ve had my pick of either sex. I just gravitated to the girls.)

I think that I came to terms with the fact that the relationships I had with the men around me as a child- my father, grandfather, uncles, brother- deeply skewed my mental connection with other men and delayed me finding my sexual identity because of their deep hatred and intolerance of anything they didn’t consider “manly”. That said, the few times that I did have the chance to explore my sexuality deeper as a young man in college were left alone, even though the curiosity and attraction- both emotional and physical- were there. But, this damage created by my family also transferred to my ability to form friendships with men, too, and I didn’t have any real guy friends until my 30′s.

So, that said, I think it’s entirely possible for you to have guy relationships before you have girl relationships. I think it has a lot to do with you’ve been conditioned to and the circumstances of your life. You spent your formidable years around other males, thus you’re more comfortable with other males.

If death were given a voice, That voice would scream through the sky
“Live while you may for I am coming”, So
Hand me the wine and the dice, I want my carnival now
While I have thirst and lust for living.

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Questions About Oral Sexually For Women | Sex Life Tips – Boost …

Women who have a lot of sexual partners…?

These women are usually labeled “sluts” or “whores”, which is really sad in my opinion, for a few reasons. What really constitutes a “slut”? Is it someone who has had sex with many different people? Not to me. If you are a single woman in your 20s, 30s, 40s, etc…I say have as much sex as you want. As long as you’re an adult, as long as you’re responsible, and most importantly as long as you’re SAFE and use protection, I say sleep with how ever many other single adults you want.

I would brand someone a “slut” if they…

Sleep with married men. That is just a major no-no. If you know that a man is married, or worse (is married WITH kids!), as a single woman, it’s our job to stay far far away.

If they cheat on their significant other. Like I said before, I think that when you’re SINGLE, you are at liberty to sleep with as many other single adults as you want, without needing to feel guilty. But if you have a boyfriend, and you are sleeping around behind his back, then yes the word “slut” would be appropriate here.

And lastly, women who have lots of unprotected sex. In this day in age you can never be too careful. Women who run around letting any old man stick a penis in them without a condom deserves to be labeled a “whore” just out of sheer stupidity. Because you’d have to be a moron to have unprotected sex these days.

So what are people’s thoughts and opinions on this subject matter? When do you think it’s appropriate to brand a woman a “slut” or a “whore” or any similar term. And what do you think of women with lots of sexual partners? Are they bad people? Should they be looked at or viewed differently?

I’m in my early twenties. And when it comes to sex, I like to divide my sexual history into two different categories. I’ve had sexual intercourse with 11 different men. And I’ve done oral, fingering, hand jobs, etc with 5 other men, who I didn’t end up having intercourse with. So yes, it’s safe to say that I have been with quite a few people. And my number of partners is relatively large. But I’ve also spent most of my adult life (so far) being single. And when I wasn’t single, I never cheated. I always stayed committed to that one person. But while being single I always practice safe sex. And I’m always mature and responsible about my endeavors. So should I be branded a slut? Based on society’s stigmas towards sexually promiscuous women I would be. I also graduated from college with an M.A. in childhood education, as well as a B.A. in professional writing, and a B.A. in American Sign Language. I consider myself to be very smart, hardworking, and driven. I have wonderful friends and family, and I’ve achieved a lot of great things in my life. But I like to have sex. And I like to experience sex with different people. Is that a crime? Why should I feel badly about that? Why has society made it so hard for women to be as sexual as they want without feeling guilt or remorse for it? Thoughts? Opinions?

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We have all seen girl on girl action in the club and it does get the attention of men. Men love it… most men fantasize about having a Ménage à trois.

I was in the club the other night and saw two girls I know getting it on..they were kissing and grinding on each other. The next day I commented that they did a performance and they said it was for show. They claimed they were not gay/bi-sexual but it was just to get attention of men.

I have also heard strippers say “we gotta go act gay” Meaning dance on each other. They claim that gets more money because men love it so much.

A barsexual woman kisses/flirts/dances/grinds on other women in the clubs for attention. A bisexual is attracted to both sexes. Bisexually does not require that a person be attracted equally to both sexes…the dictionary says attracted not sexually active. Don’t you have to be attracted to someone to be barsexual with them? What is the difference?

I also remember a forum when some girls talked about girl crushes… It was mostly straight women talking about women who they thought was attractive to and who they thought was hot. Is this normal? Do we hear straight men talking about hot dudes?


Barsexuals do act like bisexuals in the clubs. Often they blame the likka or other drugs for acting this way (excluding the girls that practice this before they go out – yes girls do practice fake kissing and grinding). What’s the saying about a drunk mind?

While researching I saw that this subject was on the Tyra Banks show (check out the video):

I also found this (written on a bi-sexual website):

Barsexual – From what I’ve been able to gather, it’s the name for the growing trend of girls who go to bars and kiss each other (usually while drunk), for the sole amusement and entertainment of guys—but say
they are straight and would never do anything more. In the minds of too
many people in both the gay and straight communities, this is what
[some people] think most bisexual women are—just straight girls who are
looking for attention and trying to please guys.

Many bisexual women’s (including my viewpoint) natural tendency is to get angry—we don’t want to be stereotyped, or have our sexuality associated with
something fake—that is just done for entertainment. We feel it cheapens
the concept of real bisexuality and leads to people saying it’s fake—it
doesn’t exist, or it’s just a phase, or worse yet, that bisexuals are
sleazy opportunists and bisexual women are nothing more than sex
objects. It only adds insult to injury to hear that many of these barsexuals say
they’re really straight, or so the story goes, anyway. I’ve heard
several bisexual female friends say “I wish they would just be labeled
as straight girls looking to entertain, not bisexuals.” I most
definitely sympathize with that frustration, as I’ve felt a lot myself
when hearing about this, but recently I’ve been thinking and have begun
to ask myself: are all these girls really just “straight fakers,” doing
it for attention? Or could some of them be bisexuals who just are not
giving people the best impression of bisexuality, or just coming out,
or people who came out. Or could some of them be questioning and unsure of their orientation.

That statement really made me think, and it makes a good point. While I definitely don’t doubt that there is a sizable chunk of these “barsexuals” who are straight, it wouldn’t surprise me if some of them
did turn out to be bisexual, or emerging bisexuals. We see this trend
in porn movies too—while sometimes the “girl on girl” ones made for men
will be just straight women doing “gay for pay”, there are bisexual
women involved in that kind of work as well. And as much as both
instances might make some of us cringe because it’s really not giving
the rest of the world the best impression of bisexual women, it doesn’t
necessarily mean that they are not bisexual—if they are, they are,
whether they express it right or not. Should we automatically label
them “fake bisexuals” just because we don’t like how they express it?
And who gets to make these rules anyway?


Is it that deep or women just wanting to have fun? Thoughts?

March 15, 2012 | 0 Comments More